A former collegue of mine told me that he had a rough weekend, and I thought to myself, "Did you have a hard time finding a spot at the mall?" (I didn't really think this before he went on with his story, but I do realize that I have become quite cynical. Babyloss just has a way of forcing one to put things into perspective, but I digress.)
What came out of his mouth next totally caught me off-guard. "My wife and I lost our baby on Saturday," he said matter-of-factly.
"I'm so sorry to hear that," I managed.
"She was 5 months along," and he pulled out his phone to show me a picture. Without hesitation, he shared the pictures just like any proud daddy would.
"I'm not sure if you know this, but our firstborn died," I shared.
He hadn't known. He looked surprised actually.
"Well, you look fine. How was the recovery?" he asked.
"Physically or emotionally?" I clarified.
"Emotionally," he said (I was kind of dreading that he'd say that).
I had to pause to avoid scaring him, but I didn't want to sugarcoat the situation. I simply said, "Well, emotionally, I'm still healing. I will never be the same. It never really goes away, but it does get better. "
About Me
- Jus and Kat
- First and foremost, we are parents. In June 2008, our son Dylan was born. He was our first pregnancy, first child, first time we realized the capacity of our hearts. Sadly, he was diagnosed with a congenital heart defect (HRHS) and, shortly after birth, was also diagnosed as VACTERL. He had a series of birth conditions, and because of the severity of his case, his doctors could not perform all the necessary surgeries that he would need to survive. He was medically classified as a "one in a million" case, and he lived for 6 beautiful days of life before he was Heaven-bound. Losing a child has strengthened our relationship and our faith. Together, we possess the courage to face whatever life throws our way and the will to survive it all. We've even survived the fears and anxiety of subsequent pregnancies and have two healthy and beautiful daughters at home. “The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything they have.”
My Dill Pickle
What a Soldier
Dylan's Feet
Just the cutest things I've ever seen!
His Precious Eyes
Look out daddy, you have competition!
Our Sweet Angel
"Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away."
Dylan's Butterfly
Thank you once again Carly, you're amazing!
Dylan's Name in the Sand
Thank you Carly!
Angel Wings Memorial Boutique
Thank You Lea!
2 comments:
I am proud of him for sharing and so sad yet another family joins this family.
What you told him is def true and it's good for him to hear it so that he knows that it's ok to always love them and miss them. I'm sorry that they have to walk this road.
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